Therapy is an added cost. Is it worth it?
Therapy is a financial commitment. It’s an investment in yourself (or a loved one) and your (their) ability to become aware of self-sabotaging patterns and more capable of practicing new, more effective thoughts and behaviors. This ability to think and behave can profoundly and positively impact you (their) relationships, work, and health.
Do I really need therapy? I can usually handle my problems.
Everyone goes through challenging situations in life, and while you may have successfully navigated through other difficulties you’ve faced, there’s nothing wrong with seeking out extra support when you need it. In fact, therapy is for people who have enough self-awareness to realize they need a helping hand, and that is something to be admired. You are taking responsibility by accepting where you’re at in life and making a commitment to change the situation by seeking therapy. Therapy provides long-lasting benefits and support, giving you the tools you need to avoid triggers, re-direct damaging patterns, and overcome whatever challenges you face.
When should I seek professional help for personal problems?
How do you know if you need counseling or psychotherapy? Sometimes it’s absolutely clear to you and those around you that you’re experiencing a crisis. In most instances though the need is less apparent. In general, emotional and substance abuse problems arise because there is an important difference between what we would like our life to be and how life actually is.
A mental health professional can offer objective exploration and assessment of your problems. To find a therapist you can trust, first consult with a close friend or relative. You may also want to ask advice of your minister, priest or rabbi. A respected professional such as your family doctor could refer you to a mental health professional.
Remember, through professional counseling, your goal is to come to understand yourself better so that you can deal with your struggles in a healthy manner.
Why do I need a therapist? Why can’t I just talk to a friend or a family member?
A friend or family member is not professionally trained to help you grow, heal and change. It’s likely that your friends and family have been giving you their best advice for some time now, and if it were sufficient, you probably wouldn’t be reading this. But here is why your friend’s advice is different from a therapist. Your friends want to maintain your friendship so they will probably tell you what you want to hear. Also, they will give advice that is based on their life’s experience. A trained therapist is interested in helping you find your own answers by helping you connect with what is true and right for you.
How does therapy work?
It is our job to create safety and undo aloneness so you can free yourself to be yourself. Here is how it works.
When something really bad happens and we feel powerless to control our environment or our future, we create a psychological strategy to protect ourselves. These are called defenses. Defenses are not bad things; without them we literally couldn’t function.
The bad news is that defenses can interfere with your quality of life … your ability to love and be loved, to pursue goals or experience self worth. When that happens, our job is to help you work through or around these defenses. Many of these defenses developed outside of your conscious awareness during vulnerable times throughout your past. They are no longer necessary and are depriving you of experiencing the life that you want. Gently, compassionately and tenaciously, we dissolve these defenses so you can know and express your real nature.
We do this by helping you connect with yourself as deeply as you are capable. We also help you connect with us in an honest and deep way so you can experience the essential safety and security you need in order to heal. As we work together, new restorative experiences associated with feeling loved and whole become available to you. Your relationship to yourself, your life and others starts to deepen and expand. Fear gives way to freedom and curiosity. Anger gives way to acceptance. And sorrow eases, creating room for resilience, love and self- activation.
Why doesn’t the New Jersey Addiction Institute accept insurance?
Here at the New Jersey Addiction Institute we do not accept insurance for several reasons:
- Insurance companies are profit driven and not always aware of the treatment process nor the unique aspects of the client-therapist relationship
- When utilizing insurance client care can be determined by what the insurance company deems medically necessary (instead of the client and therapists determining best how to proceed forward with treatment)
- When utilizing insurance the insurance company can mandate the number of sessions, the length of the sessions, who is present in a session, and additional factors
- A diagnosis must be given and that diagnosis stays with the client for life (this could impact future access to insurance coverage and employment)