Are you concerned about your relationship with your partner?
Are there issues in your romance life?
Do you feel your relationship is at a standstill?
Are you and your partner stuck in the same argument loop every night?
Do you feel like you and your partner are drifting away?
Do you desire more intimacy between you and your partner?
Have you ever looked up at your partner and wondered “what happened to the person I used to know?”
Struggling emotionally in your relationship can be really frustrating and painful. As a couple who is struggling, you may experience fear that the struggles mean the relationship is going to work out. You may find yourselves walking around on eggshells scared to trigger the feelings just below the surface You may be not voicing how you are feeling based on fear that you are the only one having those emotions. It’s common to feel worried that there is fundamentally wrong with your relationship. This can make you feel consumed with grief at your perceived failed relationship.
New Jersey Family and Addiction Institute Offers Support and Guidance for You and Your Partner
Counseling can be very helpful in starting to move forward as a couple. It can provide immediate relief for you and in your relationship. Counseling can create a space to start to discuss those feelings, emotions, and fears which have been weighing on the relationship. The New Jersey Family and Addiction Institute team will work with your relationship to determine the root cause of what you are experiencing. We will work together to gain an understanding of what is going on and give you practical treatment options.
Your therapist can assess the issues in the relationship to create a treatment plan and steps of how to move forward. Additionally, your therapist will provide concrete skills and tools for creating an environment which is supports your relationship.
Your therapist will work with you and your partner to help you recognize why you feel the way you feel when you feel it. You can learn words to label and share your feelings in a constructive manner, while also developing tools to help manage disappointment, stress, and frustration. Through conversation your therapist can help you identify your strengths and weaknesses. Together we can leverage your strengths and identify clear steps to address your weaknesses. This can help you think more positively and act with more confidence. In our sessions together we will focus on emotional intelligence, arming you with tools to help you navigate stress and adversity throughout our time together, in your relationship, and throughout your life.
But, you still may have questions or concerns….
What is going to counseling reveals there are real issues in our relationship? Isn’t it better to not know?
One of the most common fears couples have is that if they go to counseling it signifies that there is something wrong with their relationship. Even really healthy relationships can go through rough patches. Reaching out for help does not necessarily mean that it is broken or damaged beyond repair. It just means that there is some trouble going on than can be addressed. We understand the hope that the issues will naturally go away on their own you just give it time. That usually doesn’t work though. It is better to know what exactly is going on so that we can then figure out how to address it and move forward.
Counseling can take a lot of time and it isn’t cheap. I’m not sure it’s worth it. Sure our relationship has issues but it’s not that bad.
Counseling usually only takes one hour per week. We understand though that even an hour seems like a lot when we take into account all of the other roles and responsibilities you have. Counseling is an investment in your overall well-being. Intense emotions or feelings of being misunderstood can negatively impact your life and relationship. When you start to feel better in counseling the other aspects of your life start to improve. Our clients report that the improvements they experience are well worth the time and money they invest in themselves.
I feel like we could use some counseling but how do I tell that to my partner?
This is not uncommon. Deciding to talk about getting help with your partner can make you feel scared. You might fear that they will disagree or that it will make them feel panicky. The growth that can occur from counseling though is worth going through the fear of bringing it up to them. Imagine that you have the conversation, agree to counseling, and start to really grow together again. Was it worth it having that conversation? We are here to provide support through this process. If you are uncertain about how to bring up the topic of counseling with your partner reach out to us so that we can help you feel supported and guide you through the conversation.
We provide services in the Morris, Essex, and Union County area. We invite you to call us for a 15-minute free consultation to discuss any questions and concerns you may have about counseling.