Are you scared that your child is going to struggle with the adjustment to college?
Are you a parent who is worried about how your child will transition?
Are you scared that your child is not ready for college?
Are you concerned that your child is not doing well in school?
Are you in college and finding the process overwhelming?
Do you feel uncertain about what to pursue?
Is your transition to college rockier than you thought it would be?
Struggling with going to college or adjusting at college can be really difficult. For many going to college marks the first time that they are out of their childhood houses. You may find yourself thrust into an unknown situation as you adjust to making friends again for the first time in years. Maybe you are overwhelmed with all of the changes. Maybe you aren’t sure what to major in. This is “supposed” to be an exciting time but here you are struggling.
A child going to college can be difficult for parents. Up until college you know where your child lays his or her head to sleep every night. Even through the sullen years of high school you could lay your eyes on your child on a daily basis. Now they are out there on their own. It may seem like yesterday that they were just a baby and now today you are dropping them off at school. Maybe they have been at school and you are concerned about what’s going on with them. You may find yourself filled with worry and fear. This is all perfectly natural.
New Jersey Family and Addiction Institute Offers Support and Guidance for You and Your Family
Counseling can be very helpful for college students. It can be used like a booster shot before they go to school to help make the adjustment process easier. Counseling for those who are struggling can help students get back on track. It is also effective in helping parents with the transition to having a child who is no longer in the house. College can be an exciting and terrifying time. Counseling can help smooth out the emotions so that they do not take over your life.
Here at The New Jersey Family and Addiction Institute we work with college students and their families with the transition and adjustment at college. We work with parents to learn to be more comfortable with their kids being at school. We work with college students to help them figure out what they want to study, how to adjust, how to deal with the stress of school, and how to address anxiety or loneliness.
Together we will identify strengths and weaknesses. We will look at the emotions you are experiencing and explore how they are helping or hurting you. We will come up with a clean treatment plan with realistic expectations and clear steps forward.
But, you still may have questions or concerns….
My kid seems well-adjusted and is going to college. Would counseling really benefit him?
Everyone can benefit from therapy, including therapists. Having an objective person to sit and talk can help people gain perspective. Two of the biggest issues college students face is deciding who they want to be and what they want to study. Up until the end of high school students are focused on assigned classes. However, college is completely different in that students must be self-motivated and pick a path. This can be overwhelming. Add to this the stress of having to make new friends and things start to get tricky. Getting counseling for your child before he or she goes to school can help smooth out that transition process. They can start to explore who they are, who they want to be, and what career they want to pursue. For most college students, that is a process they do by themselves. Counseling can make that process more intentional and reduce stress.
My kid is so excited about school and isn’t worried. I am the one who is worried at the thought of them leaving.
Talking about issues that kids face in college is relatively common. What few people talk about is the effect that kids going to school has on parents. After nearly two decades of seeing your child on a near daily basis all of a sudden they are gone for months on end. Maybe you are saddened of the thought that this marks the end of childhood. Maybe you are worried that you will not be able to protect your child like you have when they were in your home. Transitioning to college can bring up a lot of intense emotions for parents. Counseling can be really effective in reducing the intensity of those emotions. Effective counseling can help you start navigate this new time and space in a healthy way.
College is already expensive enough. Now you are telling me I got to pay more money to get counseling for college?
To say college is expensive is an understatement. It seems like each year tuition goes up. I can’t recall a year where it ever went down. The fact that college is so expensive makes the cost of counseling worth it even just from a financial perspective. The majority of college students no longer graduate in 4 years. More now than ever college students are struggling. Their struggles result in longer and longer time spent at school. Even just one extra semester can result in tens of thousands of dollars in tuition alone. Counseling before college or during college can help mitigate the usual issues which result in staying in college for longer. Counseling to help clarify what to study or reduce anxiety can keep students on the standard 4-year path and reduce those extra (and expensive semesters).
We provide services in the Morris, Essex, and Union County area. We invite you to call us for a 15-minute free consultation to discuss any questions and concerns you may have about counseling.